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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
Update: I was in correspondence with SIL on smth else and she said, oh, I am so glad you guys are coming over, I wish you could stay longer, etc. I told her: sorry we cannot stay longer this time, but would love to come for longer some time later in the year, etc etc. I added that the trip was not finalized yet as it seems the miles tickets are not working out as they have inconvenient departure times and inconvenient layovers. She did not get back to me yet.

As to flying direct: I don't see flying with layovers as "below me", it's just inconvenient: imagine a 6 am flight which lasts 4 hours, DS just starts dozing off (kind of like an early nap) and it's time to land. And, well, heck, it's just inconvenient. I will be happy to fly in another time and pay for my own - convenient! - tickets.

I don't dislike my SIL, she is always very nice to me, and I really don't care what she spends on and how much, but one of the PPs was right - it just struck me as strange, they just took this vacation with SIL's mom and aunt (aunt is not wealthy so someone was def paying for her). But yes, in the bigger picture, it is totally irrelevant. 
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Maybe they flew SILs aunt and mom on miles. And you said in an earlier post that it hurt your feelings that they wanted to fly you out on miles - that definitely sounds like it is beneath you.

And based on what you wrote in your first post, they aren't asking you to provide full time childcare.[b] It sounds like they have childcare for the day and they are asking you to watch them after dinner and put them to bed. [/b]Posters seem to be thinking you are the childcare for the week but that isn't what I got from your post. From what I read, you have all day free, and are helping out for a couple hours in the evening. Seeing as your son is 4, you would be home all night anyways. 
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Do you work? [/b]Is this a vacation week you are taking?[/quote]

Completely irrelevant. They are asking OP to alter her own time and her own space, in order to help them out. OP's time is her own, to do whatever she wants. When you ask others to sacrifice that and help you out, you gotta provide, and at least compensate them for transportation and food. [/quote]
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They are paying her way and haven't said they wouldn't provide food. [/b]

Op is 100% in her right to say no, she doesn't want to help out. If you expect full compensation, then it isn't helping out, it is a job.[/quote]

They are paying at their convenience, not at OP's convenience (direct flight). Kind of an important distinction. OP has said they didn't really provide food options in the past. That is not compensation at all - that's basic, common, minimal decency.[/quote]

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