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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see alot of accusatory responses on here, calling the OP various names (shitty, jerk, selfish, ass, etc), making excuses for the wife, and basically telling OP to just suck it up and stay miserable in a sexless marriage.
OP, please ignore all those responses!!!

About the only actual legit advice offered thus far might be [i]counseling[/i] (and I agree if OP has not tried that, it's worth a try).

Aside from all that, OP sounds like he is being completely honest with himself and with his wife.
The question of divorce or open marriage is a logical one to ask, so why is everybody flaming this guy?

OP should NOT feel guilted into a sexless marriage "for the sake of the kids". Bullshit!! 
The kids are his for life: even if the marriage ends, he shares the kids 50/50 with ex wife.
Sex is an important part of life, and you wife has no right to force celibacy upon you.

OP, try counseling. If that's not getting anwhere, maybe bring up the open marriage concept within a counseling session.
It makes perfect sense to me that if open marriage would work for you, then wife should get to vote on this option.

PS, I was in a sexless marriage. Like OP, I tried everything. Including counseling. We had [b]The Talk[/b], which came down to these 3 options:
1) we repair our sexlessness
2) open marriage
3) divorce
So basically I have been where you are OP. She picked option 1, and with the help of counseling, we have stayed happily married with regular sex (couple times per week) for the past 10 years.

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How long have you been reading these boards? This are the biggest group of sexist hags you will ever meet. It is no wonder most people are miserable on here.[/quote]

I think the issue here is that you assume every response you don't like is from a woman. That's a stupid assumption. I've left relationships with low drive men and women. It's not a he vs she issue. [/quote]

These boards are heavily dominated by women. I'm a woman you are responding to, BTW.[/quote]

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