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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks for all the responses.

FWIW, I haven't tried counselling.   I also know the huge problem with divorce, problems caused on children, finances, etc.  If I wasn't afraid of the ramifications of divorce, this would be a no brainer.

I have made many MANY efforts to improve our sex life.  Erotica, toys, vacations, etc.  We have had many sex talks, repeat many, and they usually end with DW feeling bad that she isn't being a good wife.  It still doesn't change though.

I have tried to be patient.  Just wait until she is no longer pregnant.  Now wait till she isn't breastfeeding.  Now wait till they are walking.  Or unitl they are in school.   Nothing has changed.  6 of our 8 years of marriage have completely lacked passion.

I don't drink other than socially.  I have no temper.  DW is a great mom.  We co-parent well.  We are a good economic team and very comfortable financially.  She is a great person.  I wish her well.  But the truth is the lack of initmacy has really caused me to fall out of love with her.  Several people have raised excellent points - it doesn't appear that I really want to reconcile this now.  You may be on to something because I do feel like I have checked out and I don't have the energy to try for the 43rd time to rekindle the love.  They say the opposite of love is not hate but indifference.  That sums it up.

If we didn't have kids, this would be so easy.  The relationship, like many relationships has just run its course.

Thanks to all for kind thoughtful responses.  Lots to consider under sober second thought.[/quote]

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