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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]This is a kid I see at the bus stop only. My kid sees him at swim but I don't. How, pray tell, in the 5 minutes we have at the bus stop with 11 other kids and 7 parents am I supposed to show empathy? This isn't a close friend nor am I friendly with the family. We knew each other a little more during the last preschool year 2 years ago but even then the kids weren't together.
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Well, your children obviously tell you a lot about this kid.  When they're regaling you with his latest whopper, you can show empathy by offering explanations for why this kid is lying.  You don't have to excuse his behavior, you offer them a perspective and help them develop some empathy themselves.  I'm doing this with my DS who has a classmate that's in foster care.  I don't see this kid a lot but he seems nice enough even though what he says can be difficult to believe.  I imagine a lot of what he says is wishful thinking and that he's had a lot of hurt and disappointment in his life.  When I give my DS a different perspective, it helps him better understand people's behavior and what motivates them.  It doesn't make it okay but it does make it more understandable and you never know how much a small kindness can mean to someone. [/quote]

Empathy is completely lacking in the adults on this board. Why would you think that is a quality they would want to teach their children? I'm not being sarcastic -- I've noticed that people posting on all threads show a total lack of empathy, even basic understanding of the motivations of others. It's pretty shocking.[/quote]

Agree.  About 90% of the posters on this board either don't want to know what motivates other people in distress or don't even have the cognitive and developmental capacity to "put themselves in another person's shoes."  (ie., they have no capacity for empathy).  I have even seen people post "I am not an empathetic person" as if that is a positive character trait.  It's really scary to read posts from parents whose sole reaction is anger when their children are obviously in pain, and its really quite extraordinary to read posts from parents who want to humiliate their children as a means of dealing with a child's distress.  I personally started out believing the OP was a troll but sadly I think this is a real post.

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I agree. The posts about "friends" are also pretty extraordinary. It's as if people call someone a friend when they don't understand them or even like them. So strange.[/quote]

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