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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Again, you are missing the point of the thread. The point of the thread was not "how can I avoid receiving the same suggestions over and over again?" The point of the thread was how to move forward. People are trying to share how they found meaning and happiness EVEN THOUGH THEY COULDN'T HAVE BABIES.

If you want to be stuck forever rolling your eyes at how cliche it is when people suggest that you volunteer with kids or be involved with friends' kids or relatives, then maybe you shouldn't click on a thread where the OP is asking for suggestions about [b]making life move forward.[/b][/quote]

The poster who suggested "being an aunt" admitted that he/she has not struggled with infertility.  And so was invalidating the difference between being a parent and being tangentially involved as another adult in a child's life.

This is not the forum to come and throw around cliches we've all heard.  If someone wants to come and make the OP feel like OTHERS get it even though someone clueless decided she needed to hear the same crap for the 100th time, that is also part of being on a forum.

Being an aunt is not a way to move on--you STILL have to mourn not being a parent.  They. Are. Not. The. Same.

Maybe you should leave the infertility forum support to people who actually understand infertility and the myriad of complexities and emotions involved.[/quote]

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