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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Again, you are missing the point of the thread. The point of the thread was not "how can I avoid receiving the same suggestions over and over again?" The point of the thread was how to move forward. People are trying to share how they found meaning and happiness EVEN THOUGH THEY COULDN'T HAVE BABIES.

If you want to be stuck forever rolling your eyes at how cliche it is when people suggest that you volunteer with kids or be involved with friends' kids or relatives, then maybe you shouldn't click on a thread where the OP is asking for suggestions about [b]making life move forward.[/b][/quote]

I clicked on the thread hoping to get better suggestions beyond the usual.  And I most certainly wasn't looking for suggestions about how to move forward when you can't have kids from people WHO HAVE KIDS.  Seriously, you don't get that?????

It's one of the most condescending things -- someone with a child or children telling you, "Hey, just be a great aunt or godmother!"  I was thinking -- gasp -- that people who ended up NOT being able to have kids would explain how they got over the grief of that and moved on.

There are a lot of posts from people who have kids.  Why did they click on the thread?  It wasn't entitled, "Hey, people who have kids, what is your advice to your infertile friends?"

I'm sorry I'm being snarky now.  My initial response to the PP wasn't meant to be snarky.  It was meant to be honest and maybe educational -- like maybe if she has infertile friends IRL, she might not want to say that.

I don't "roll my eyes" at how cliche it is when people make cliche suggestions.  My posts weren't eye rolls.  They were EXPLANATIONS so that maybe people can understand why those suggestions actually only make it hurt more.[/quote]

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