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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I've already posted a few times on thread (I'm the one going to scrape butter off strangers' toast....jk) but really i'm impressed with your grandmother. She is making some lucid comments and seems to know what she is talking about. She could be saying stuff like 20:26's grandmother. I bet she was a competent mother herself at the time. You have good genes.[/quote]

Are you joking again?  I'm really not trying to be snarky, it just that other people are talking about loss of filters and dementia and  you're saying she sounds lucid?  Knows what she's talking about?

What I would like to know is if she has always been a critical person or if this behavior is new for her.  If she used to be a doll, then I would go with all the dementia/aging votes and fall in the take a deep breath and just do your best to get through as politely as possible, but if she has always been very critical of others, then it's just her and her age is irrelevant (i.e., she should be told to stop in no uncertain terms).[/quote]

She is saying they eat too much butter, not trying to feed them vaseline or pouring dish soap in oj glasses. Lots of lucid people have problems with the amount of butter people eat (I'm not one of them). She was also talking about the kid's shoe size, not reminiscing about her first pair of leather shoes her grandfather made for her out of a dead deer back on the farm when she was 4. She's noticing what's going on around her, and pretty accurately. Good for her. When I'm that age (when i'm not scraping the butter off of the toast of strangers) I'm going to be sitting in a rocking chair spacing out.

As far as being told to stop in no uncertain terms -- I guess you don't think that older generations have seniority, have earned respect, etc. SHE raised OP's mom or dad. She is not to be told "in no uncertain terms" by her granddaughter to be quiet. How absurd. Good god, if you can't even respect a 90 year old grandmother then -- I'm speechless. She trumps OP.[/quote]

I am from a totally different school of thought than you on respect -- I don't think age, or sex, or special class earns a person respect.  I think behaving kindly, using manners, treating others as you want to be treated, etc EARNS someone respect.  You have to be worthy of the respect because of who you are and how you act, not because of the date of birth on your drivers license.

And for the record, OP's grandmother is being a dick.[/quote]

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