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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know how easy it is to distinguish between genuinely curious questions and ones that are intended to be mean. I guess I also wonder how many 7yos are really mean in that fashion - I have kids a bit older and a bit younger and I don't see that (but they're boys, so maybe it's different.) They can be awfully obtuse though.

I also think this question is a tough one for adults to navigate, which is why there's another SN thread right now about how to approach a SN mom at the pool. I'll say as someone who dealt with an obvious physical disability on a short-term (6 month) basis recently due to a medical condition, adults were all across the board on this. And in general, I was less offended by the blunt questions from strangers at the supermarket than by the fact that my next-door neighbors, whose house is 16 feet from mine and saw me practically daily, never once said gee, what happened, how are you doing?

Point is, before you yell at some 7yos, try to remember that most are generally well-meaning, even if they express themselves awkwardly. Same is true for adults too.[/quote]

I know you mean well, but experiencing a short-term physical disability for 6 months is just not the same as living with something permanent for years and years. It gets wearying to deal with others, even those who are well-intentioned, for so long, with no prospect of it ever going away.  I used to have a positive attitude too about others' approaching me when I was a little girl - that's how I was taught to be, little Miss Sunshine - but now in my middle age I have much less patience with questions because I'm tired of people feeling they have a need or right to know about my body.

Also, I trust this mother can tell the difference between pure curiosity and kids who are being cruel.

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Also, there's a huge difference between someone who knows you and sees that something has happened to you and doesn't ask (so of course you'd be upset when your neighbor doesn't say anything) and strangers who don't know anything about you coming up and asking.  [/quote]

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