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OP, I did have a really nasty reaction to your post.  In fact, I closed DCUM in disgust after I read it.  Your parents sound like they've got LIVES, and that is just so great.  My dad is dead and my mom has dementia now (she's only 70) but they had no friends, no hobbies, no travel, no retirement savings. They were entirely dependent on me and my brothers for support, validation, company, anything.  Mostly they just sat and watched TV.  They loved us very much. I appreciated them once I stopped trying to change them.

My in-laws are divorced. Neither has a single friend or a hobby in the world.  All they do is smoke (MIL), watch TV, buy things off HSN, and wait for us to call with stories about the grand kids.  They have no where to go, nothing to do, no interests but us (but they're not the babysitting type)....they like to come over and spend the day just sitting and watching us interact with the toddler.  They are sedentary and in bad health.  They can't be persuaded to go anywhere or try anything new.  If DH doesn't call for a couple of days, they freak out because they have literally nothing else in their lives.  Their company is not at all enjoyable but DH feels pressured to have them over often because he has the pretty crushing burden of being their only reason for living.  We love them but we don't enjoy them.

I'd trade you any day for healthy, loving parents who have interests, something to discuss, meaningful existences other than TV, and interests other than the minutae of our daily lives.[/quote]

This is my family too and it's awful.  Nothing interesting to discuss and I don't share my news because then that becomes my mom's news that she will share with anyone and everyone.  They have ceased to have full and engaging lives and want to usurp ours.[/quote]

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