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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here...I have to laugh at the posts who said it sounds like I want free babysitting.  I have explained we have a nanny who we pay for babysitting on a regular basis.  This has nothing to do with free babysitting.  This is a simple post about my own wishes verses reality of my parents involvement in my and my children's life.  The PP who wrote a grieving letter gets it...that is how I feel...like I am seeing my parents in a new light now that I am a parent and I need to just accept it although I wish it were different.  [b]The PP's who wrote that my mom may have anxiety may be on to something[/b].  My parents never want to have heart felt meaningful conversations...maybe this is part of the big picture and I should try to have an open conversation with them about this.
[/quote]Pp who wrote about her MIL here. I should also mention that my mom was secretly anxious for years and hid it from me.  She was just better at getting up and going places than MIL so I wouldn't have guessed it without her telling me.  It's like being a secret drinker or something -- a toxic, hidden secret life.  I suffer badly from anxiety now and then myself but I have learned to be up front about it.  Anyway, I'm sharing all this with you because sometimes anxious people are very good at hiding that they're anxious.  I don't know if that's what's going on with your mom but I was struck by the fact that you told her you thought she might be worried about driving and she said she wasn't.  Yeah, maybe she's just a self-centered person but if she were like my mom she would just lie through her teeth about being scared.  Anyway, I shouldn't make assumptions about your mom based on mine so take my advice with a grain of salt.  Good luck, OP![/quote]

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