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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dad had a complete separate family. I learned in 3rd grade. It did taint how I looked at him, but the real loser in my eyes is my mom who flipped out and didn't try to save her marriage. As a result, my full sibling and I grew up in poverty while the halfs got a pretty cushy upbringing AND our dad. My mom also has spent the last three decades trashing my dad and his mistress.[/quote]

Um, you do realize that your Dad is the a-hole here, right.  Please tell me you haven't blamed/vilified your mother for this.  [/quote]

My dad has apologized to us again and again. [b]My mother takes no responsibility for her role in how things ended up.[/b] To this day, my mother ruins nearly every family occasion by trying to pick a fight with my dad. I glad that at least he got some peace from her when he left. Wish he'd taken us, too. Growing up in the ghetto is hard. Growing up in the ghetto with a depressed, bitter mother is so much worse. [/quote]

That's because she has *no* responsibility in it. She didn't put a gun to your dad's head and order him to have a parallel secret family. He's the one who made the choice to lie, scheme, conceal, betray. He did not act the way a good man, a good husband, a good dad does. Apologies are very cheap. He should not have let the situation arise in the first place. You need therapy.[/quote]

NP. And she's the one who chose to emotionally abandon her children who had already lost their intact family because her own broken hear was more important than being a mother. Both parental fails in my book. Dad attempted to make it up to the children. Mom did not because her own broken heart was always more important to her even years later. Can people really not see why she would be inclined to have one close parent instead of none and why it would be the parent who at least tried.. [/quote]

You're entitled to your opinion but please don't try to des guise it as a NP.  It's quite obvious you've posted already here.[/quote]

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