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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, I'll chime in with a different perspective. I have eczema and don't shower every day because it's aggravates my skin, but I brush my teeth everyday and shower at least every other day, certainly on days that I sweat. I also do a sniff test on myself at the end of each day and occasionally ask my husband if I should quickly rinse off. 
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When visiting my ILs, so people in their 60s, they really can not be at peace with their DIL, both a guest and a family member, not showering every day. It just makes them uneasy and they imagine I must be so so uncomfortable; they get uncomfortable just worrying about it. So, I do at least step into the shower and rinse off (not always with soap if my skin's dry) each day. I'm not used to it, I don't think it's necessary, and I don't smell. But it makes them comfortable and I'm not going to push back on something like that. In their world, people staying in their home shower each day - that's life. 
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If your mom is pushing back and saying she can't just go along with it (and is potentially lying about it?), then I think something's up beyond just a personal preference to shower less frequently. Either something physical, psychological, or maybe pride - could this be her silent defiance against your tracking her hygiene habits? Maybe she resents you inspecting the shower & her towel and finds it condescending? [/quote]

This is the weirdest thing. Why are they even paying attention. I think that is rude on the part of the hosts.

I take my showers when no one is around because I like to air dry a bit/run around in a towel. For all my DH/potential guests/the nanny knows, I never shower. [/quote]

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