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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a hateful thread.  She is giving you things because she is thinking of your family. It may be a misdirected action but the sentiment is not misplaced.

There is something called grace. If you cannot change a situation for the better then the graceful thing is to accept it with a smile and a "thank you".

You can distribute the food, distribute the clothes, donate it etc.  The issue seems more that OPs house is a mess and any thing more that comes to her house triggers a stress response in her.

Ask your MIL - would she be willing to chip in some money to get you a professional organizer?  Share your concern about how your house is cluttered and you want to declutter it.  These are genuine concerns - but not worth alienating your MIL.  And how do you think your DH feels about it?  Do you think that he thinks you are a nice person or does he think you are a mean person?

Do not create unneccessary tensions in your family![/quote]

This is a quote from somebody who either has hoarding disorder and is looking for an excuse or has no clue what it's like to deal with a parent with hoarding disorder. Honestly, I'd love to be in a place in my life where I was that naive about hoarding. It almost makes me laugh. OP, just ignore this PP. This is useless.

OP, it sounds like your DH grew up with a parent who hoards. He has probably been dealing with weird forms of this his whole life. It may take him time to see the pattern. Is your house cluttered in part because your husband has inherited patterns from his family of origin? Does he perceive an issue?

Also, the financial issues are common with people who have hoarding disorder. I think they are two sides to the same mental disorder.

Finally, IMO, don't bother donating. Just find a trash bin on the way out of town and dump it. It's not worth your time. Frankly a lot of the GW stores end up just enabling other hoarders whose families then have one more thing to deal with. Just get it out of your life in one stop to the garbage bin.[/quote]

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