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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]You won't like it when you are doing multiple rounds of IVF for #2. The monitoring appts are the worst bc no sitter is going to come to your house that early for just the 45-60 min that you need them for.[/quote]

I agree this was a pain and we had to get crafty between my husband's and my work schedule but I still think this is a good policy.  Also, I have taken my 6 month old to other doctor appointments (and I have a lot since I am a ovarian cancer survivor) and it is not always easy having an infant at the appointment.

I also agree that this email was probably not a great idea but the moment I signed up at SGF I unsubscribed from their emails.  This is an option that every single person on this board complaining had/has the option to do.  I was not interested in receiving them (as with any companies advertising emails).  I don't think I would have been any more bothered from that email than I was when Google so kindly started giving me a bunch of advertisements for baby furniture and clothing once I received an email from my SGF nurse which was well before I was pregnant.  I quickly notified Google that I was using a fertility clinic because I was unable to have children on my own and the adds immediately stopped.  No harm done... innocent mistake in the algorithm used to snoop through our emails (I hate that they scan emails to provide targeted adds).

I feel like the over reaction on this board is due to the delicate subject of infertility.  I have a friend that required a few cycles of clomid to get pregnant and when she found out I was expecting her comment was 'well that didn't take you long'.  She had no idea that I had to undergo extra surgeries to remove my tubes so that i could do IVF... She also does not know we paid $30K to have our child and multiple rounds of IVF (shared risk at SGF).  She has two kids and was still spiteful that she felt it took her longer to have children and had to go the route of clomid.  I get this process sucks... I cried for weeks when I found out I had ovarian cancer because first off I thought I might die and secondly I figured I never would have the chance to have my own children.  I am beyond grateful that the advances in IVF have come so far that I was able to have a child (and hopefully a second some day).

I do feel for the people still undergoing this process to have a child (and all of us going through it again to try and complete a family - it sucks regardless if you already have a child or not).  But I also question the outrage on this site over an email.  Insensitive - of course it was, but in the long run there are many worse things in life than being offended over something you could just delete from an inbox (or unsubscribed from a long time ago).  If you can't handle an error that was made by a company then how are you going to handle other issues that you will be confronted with in the future.  If you hate the company then use a different one.  The great thing about this area is they have a lot of good IVF clinics so you may not be stuck (i know some are because of insurance).  I highly doubt that a newspaper would touch a 'story' like this (or as I see it non-story - it was an error).  Infertility is full of stress and disappointment and I am sure venting helps (and the many tears I have shed), and even complaining to SGF to make them aware of this error.  But trying to convince a paper to write a story about the incompetence of a company is probably not going to resolve any of the disappointment and anger you feel over the unfairness of having to go this route in the same place.  I am more than sure that the other IVF clinics will happily take your business (and money) and hopefully provide each of you your baby... and I am sure SGF will continue to thrive as many more woman are waiting longer and longer to start a family (I am 39).  I would never say 'get over it' because i still get frustrated that I was dealt the crappy cancer card but I think refocusing the anger into something productive will help you heal from the emotional turmoil that a company with a horrible PR department has caused (and no I am not defending any of their advertising... it drove me nuts so I unsubscribed).

I have switched doctors many many times because I felt they did not care about my health and only money.  I did not get that with my doctor at SGF (O'Brien).  She has been amazing with me, took time to ask to see pictures of my child, calls me with progress of my embryo's and called me to discuss why a cycle may have failed and how to go forward.  She also asks me to schedule my appointments during the week when she can be there to do the exam (she has done my saline sonogram, 1 of the 3 retrievals and all three transfers).  I couldn't ask for more than that from a doctor.    [/quote]

+1 
And I would add that anonymous forums are great for asking all sort of questions, but really what we're going through requires more support than just our docs or anonymous posts can offer. Seeking professional help and finding an in person support group helped me immensely so I am better equipped to deal with the unexpected infertility emotions when things such as this email come into my life. Not defending SGF here because what they did was certainly not customer-friendly, but just offering some advice to help deal with the unexpected. [/quote]

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