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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster here.  What's the problem with telling him that his tummy sticks out a bit.  Well, for one thing he has eyes and he has a body and he can see his own body.  Do you need feedback on the appearance of your body?  You have clothing, you can tell whether and how your clothing fits and when your stomach is jiggling and heavy.  Why do you think that overweight people need to be kept up to date by the toned community?

Also, it's basically mean, isn't it?  What's the point?  It's really not nice.  Is that a memory that you want him to carry through?  My mom told me that my stomach sticks out?  Really, OP?

I think you know what "Don't buy junk" means.  You are being deliberately obtuse.[/quote]

why is it mean? he's a child, i'm the parent, i tell him his tummy sticks out which is a fact that he, as an 8-yo, may not actually understand or care. i'm not calling him fat or big belly or teasing him about it. it's a sign that he is in need to move more and eat less, simple as that, and never about 'appearance' like you (might) think.

but link me a study that says belly fat is health for not unhealthy then i'll reconsider it.[/quote]

OP, your son may turn out to be just fine (mentally/emotionally I mean).  But you are really putting him at risk by how you are handling this.  He WILL remember that you weighed him weekly and assessed his physique and told him his tummy sticks out.  Yes it may be a fact but it's not helpful information and it's clear to him that because his body looks the way he does, he is letting you down.

My sister had eating issues growing up and later committed suicide.  Be careful.

I'm assuming you've discussed this with your pediatrician but if you have not you should immediately, without your son present.[/quote]

This.  It's great to offer more fruits and veggies, lean proteins, and whole grains.  It's awesome to offer less processed flour and sugar.  It's fine to keep the junk out of the house.  But trust me when I say that the negative stuff that parents say about their kids' appearance, including (and maybe especially) their weight, sticks with them.  Sometimes for the rest of their lives.  Someone put it to me this way--as parents, you may end up being the voice in your kid's head for years.  What do you want them to hear?  Your son should be hearing from you: "I love you and I want you to be happy and healthy.  I will help you learn to eat healthy so that you have the energy to do all the amazing things you want to do.  I will help you learn to love being active and to enjoy your body."  Your son should not be hearing "You are not good enough as you are."  You may think you're just "being honest" by telling him his tummy sticks out.  But your son deserves more from you than just honesty.  [/quote]

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