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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seriously! Have you though about doing more chores OP?[/quote][/quote]

OP here.  Yeah, I have tried "choreplay" but choreplay doesn't actually ramp up the libido.  It may get a thank-you BJ.  That's nice and all but not what I am concerned about.  [b]I am more interested in whether DW will regain her urge to have sex because she is, you know, actually desiring her husband[/b] as opposed to feeling like she should do something to be nice.[/quote]

Here's the thing:  She doesn't control that.  She really doesn't.  So if she has sex to be nice (and not because she desires it - she doesn't), that's not enough either?  You need for her to both have sex and *want* to have sex, just having sex is not enough for you?  Even though she has no control over her lack of libido?[/quote]

Ugh.  This was the WORST part for me of those years.  As a wife you know you need to take care of your DH's needs.  So you do.  And then you get criticized because you're not actually horny.  You're not into it "enough".  Which just pissed me off and turned me off.  I worked, took care of the kids, took care of the house, gave BJs, and STILL had to listen to crap about how the sex was never (fill in the blank) enough.  Frequent enough, horny enough, exciting enough, whatever.[/quote]

Be careful OP, some of us just give up trying to please a man like that.  [/quote]

I don't believe that. She does have control over it within a certain time frame after having a baby. The initial infant and toddler stages with sleeplessness and nursing suck, but it can come back with some effort on both partners' part.

Why would you just throw up your hands? I don't understand. [/quote]  Who is throwing up their hands?  If the partners are still having sex?  [/quote]

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