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[quote=Anonymous]To respond to the OP:

Yes, my libido came back, but it took awhile and it's not quite what it was.  Your kids are still young, even if they are not infants, and are still physically demanding.  I found that even when my kids were those ages (they are now preteen/young teen) I felt like they were so much in my space that my desire for affectionate contact was much less.  Which is to say, when it got to the end of an exhausting day, I just wanted my body to myself.

Now that they are older, fatigue and lack of personal space aren't as much an issue, but it's still hard for DH and I to get together.  Part of it is that we have always had different body clocks (morning person/night person).  We definitely have to schedule sex.  But we have also tried to make a point of having "naked snuggle time," even if nothing happens.  This is great for fostering intimacy and warm feelings, even if it's not sexual.

One more point, from my favorite sex guru Dan Savage -- a generalization, obviously, but often true.  Men have sex because they're horny; women start having sex and then get horny.  Sometimes your wife just needs to start going through the motions to get in the mood.  If you're waiting for the magic moment when your wife is going to jump you and drag you off to bed, you're going to be waiting a long time.  [/quote]

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