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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can work with him at home to enforce reinforce not hitting but the time you spend with him doing that is minimal to the time he spends in daycare so [b]it really depends on what they are doing at the daycare to enforce/reinforce. They may not be sending the same messages as you[/b] and as he is there for far more hours in a day then he is with you, what happens at daycare is going to be far more influential than what you do at home for an hour or two. Often at daycare it is the other kids who are doing the teaching and that is exactly what happened here. Another 3 yr old taught him a lesson about not hitting. [/quote]

This is so not helpful.[/quote]

Agreed, and the tone just seems snide and nasty. About the only useful point raided here is getting on the same page as the daycare. What rules do they have? How do they phrase their expectations? Have they read one of the above-mentioned books? If you can reasonably use the same language and expectations at home as they do at daycare, that might be valuable. If the child is receiving an identical or nearly identical message from all of his caregivers, it will likely be increasingly effective thanks to the repetition and consistency. [/quote]

You really think at that age that what mom said last night after dinner (at home) is going to matter more than what is being said and done on an ongoing basis day in and day out - in the context and setting of the daycare?

If so you are wrong. Kids at that age need frequent teaching, guiding and reinforcing - in live time and in the context where they can apply and practice the skills. There are likely hundreds of interactions at daycare in a day between kids that are teachable moments - the teaching may be done by a daycare worker if they are there or by other kids if there isn't a worker present. What mom and dad say at home really isn't all that influential at that age. Comments made by parents is not going to trump the 40-50 hours of in-vivo teaching, enforcing, reinforcing, guiding, reacting, responding that happens at daycare. [/quote]

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