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[quote=Anonymous]I am the non-physician husband again, and I agree: a year of chronic constipation belongs in an internal medicine office, not an ED.  That's just ridiculous.  Go home with a bottle of mineral oil, change your diet and go for a long walk every day.

But that's more a result of our fucked-up healthcare system and years of training people to mis-use resources because they have no access to the appropriate venues.  I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt they didn't show up worried about an intestinal blockage.

But that's not where you started: you started by bitching about your husband having silly concerns that drove you bananas.

My doctor wife has concerns which, given my life history and perspective, and what I know about a how bunch of things, are non-issues, in my opinion.  These are things like, contracts, homeownership, insurance, financial investing...not completely trivial stuff.  And I also happen to be right about a lot of them.

She doesn't - because she was in the medical training silo/nunnery - have any idea about these things or how they work in the real world.  Consequently she makes a lot of rookie mistakes about a lot of day to day stuff and seriously stresses out about things that totally do not matter.

I don't choose to make fun of her or belittle her concerns.  I have to make a conscious effort to avoid it, because sometimes it's an annoying PITA to even have to waste the time listening to, much less addressing and handling non-issues.

But I respect my wife, despite her clueless naivete about so many things, and listen to her concerns.

I also stop her from making OBVIOUS and dumbass legal and business decisions that the rest of her genius-doctor partners go sailing right into like a pack of clueless morons.  And I do it without insulting and belittling her or her partners.  I even manage to never lay claim to the "I told you so".

Other than messing up the gender pronouns, this person nailed it:

[quote]So you're not capable of being sympathetic to your wife when she complains but want sympathy from anonymous internet posters when you complain about your wife complaining. [/quote][/quote]

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