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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you've never been through it, you have NO IDEA how incredibly difficult and painful it is.  Please, just give her time and space.  And in the meantime, if you are a believer, please pray for her.

Signed - been there, done that.  [/quote]

Yeah, pray for her while she gives you her ass to kiss. The world doesn't revolve around her infertility. [/quote]

Would you be so callous if your friend was dealing with a life-threatening illness?  What if she suffered a death in her immediate family?  Why are you making someone else's hardship about your needs?[/quote]

Exactly.  No one would dream of using the phrase "wallowing in poor me-dom" to describe someone in those situations.  It's because deep down, people (mostly those who've never experienced it) don't believe infertility is a good enough reason to experience significant grief or depression.  [b]It isn't worthy of our compassion in the way that other tragedies are.  Instead, infertiles are told to "buck up" and "deal with it".[/b][/quote]

What crap. We experienced infertility, IVF, multiple miscarriages and then, when we were finally pregnant, a diagnosis at 20 weeks that the baby would not live more than a few minutes after birth. Of course we experienced significant grief and depression, and anyone who tells me I just don't understand can just suck it. It's not about minimizing the grief, it's expecting people to deal with that grief in an adult manner.  [b]And to the pp who compared infertility to getting a serious illness or losing a lived one, get real. At bottom, your not getting something you want. Something you desperately want, sure, but you're not 7. Act your age. [/b]
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Case in point.

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