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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, here, ugh -- if you all knew my MIL you would understand why it ended in a screaming match. She is an extremely difficult person. She has always annoyed me but this time she did something that has effected my daughter's health and that was enough for me to freak out. [/quote]

My mom had done things like this. Served nuts when my kid had a nut allergy and when I pointed it out she said my kid could leave the room.
She also gave him a pill bottle to use as a rattle.

I told her that she almost gave me a heart attack and she said, "But I was watching him and I know CPR."

Some people need to create a crisis so they can feel comfortable.

I spoke to my pediatrician about it and she had some really really good advice, such as staying at hotels, eating in public places so that I am in control of the menu, and in general, taking over.

FWIW, you husband must be going nuts.  I know you want him to defend you but his instincts must be to protect you both.  Part of being a spouse is putting up with the other's family.  We used to plan "time out times" when we went into enemy territory, like, I'd get a pedicure when we went to his mom's house or he'd go to the book store when we were with my parents.  It helped ease the tension.[/quote]

I just quit going to see his family and he quit going to see mine. When takes the kids to his folks, that's "me time" to go shopping or go to the salon or read a book. When I take the kids to my folks, that his time to sit around and play video games all weekend or go out with his friends. If the in-laws make you nuts, then skip seeing them.

BTW, when I stopped going to the in-laws, DH stopped going so often. If he has to do all the work of planning the visits, managing the kids, and talking to his parents, he doesn't want to do it as often.   :twisted:   Sorry I'm not sorry. [/quote]

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