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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 20:26 and 20:33 are insightful. He is kind of a man that would battle me for the girls. He does have a strong emotional connection to them, especially one. To PP, I really appreciate your input criticism and advice. I am a strong person, I am well put together, educated and I am confident I could build a new happy relationship. It is my marriage that I do not want to give up on just yet. I guess I realize now that I was also looking for comments from those who have stayed and ended up working things through. When things are well, I do love spending time with my husband, I do like him, I do care about him. He's always apologized for being mean, etc, and especially when the girls witnessed anything he made sure to let them know he was wrong and that this behavior was not acceptable.

I see that most times he is trying, remembers birthdays, anniversaries etc, helps out, does nice things for me.  It's the times he can't control his impulsiveness and just blurted out in anger making me feel very sad, hurt and disrespected. 
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[b]This doesn't sound like abuse. Abusers never apologize and twist the truth to blame the victim. [/b]

Is there something in your past that might make you think that normal arguments are abusive? Have you been to counseling?[/quote]

:shock:  This is so fucking wrong that I thought it was a joke. Many abusers are VERY apologetic after an abusive episode, promise it will never happen again, they love you so much, they love you TOO much and that's why they get so upset (then they throw in some victim-blaming while they're at it - "when you ____________ it makes me so mad that I can't help myself, but it will never happen again, you just have to stop _____________, you're the most important thing to me in the world and I would never hurt you on purpose", aka: you made me do it). 
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