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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a pretty awesome husband and father. My wife acknowledges that. (She's also a pretty awesome wife and mother for that matter.) She wants to want to have sex with me, and it makes her sad and anxious that she doesn't. On her own, sex once, maybe twice, a month would be enough. She makes an effort and we manage almost once a week these days. But, while she feels sad and anxious about my desire for sex, I feel depressed about her lack of attraction to me. We've been married for 15 years and deeply love, respect, and like one another. But the sex issue is a definite challenge for us. [/quote]

Bottom line, this isn't going to change unless you make it clear that this is something you are willing to end the marriage over, and are attractive enough that doing so seems like a bad outcome to her.  Once you have done as much as you can to try to increase her attraction to you, and find that it still isn't enough, you are looking at a tough decision to make:  suffer, cheat, or leave.  All bad options.  I'm working through similar issues myself, and hope it doesn't come to that, but I am starting to believe that once a woman has lost sexual interest in you, it's not fixable.  [/quote]

I am the wife in a marriage in which my H simply says, it's not that I'm not attracted to you, it's that I naturally have a lower sex drive. His energy level is lower too, always has been, so maybe it's just that. Same result though, which makes me feel undesirable and vulnerable to attention from other men.[/quote]

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