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[quote=Anonymous]I can see both sides of this. I don't think I would change the name because I have a 4 year old and her name is a huge deal to her. She would flip out if anyone tried to change her name. And as others have pointed out, a kid in foster care has gone through a lot of upheaval and loss and her name might be the only constant.

On the other hand, names do matter and having a name that screams "stripper" will affect how people treat her. Certainly in the job market when she grows up. I can see the resume getting tossed into the reject pile without a second glance. People do make assumptions about people based on their names. We interviewed a Misty for an admin job and a coworker commented that it sounded like a stripper's name. But even in school, I wonder if her name will affect her teachers' expectations of her, etc.

If OP's concern is truly just embarrassment then that is not a good reason IMO. But if it's more than that, it's a tough call. I like the middle name idea. She probably knows her middle name too so perhaps just add a new name so she has two middle names? Would that be too Euro? Too complicated?[/quote]

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