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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder how many of you have teens.  Advice like "don't let them hang out with the cool crowd," as if parents can or should dictate a 17 year-olds friends.  Or the idea that you need to schedule them up so they don't have the opportunity.  There is a big downside to over scheduling kids , not to mention that in high school they have more control over their schedule.  There are plenty of kids in afterschool sports with heavy course loads, who also experiment with drugs and alcohol.  Or the idea that kids who dabble must have some relative setting the example.

You can't erect a wall around them, which is what all this scheduling is trying to do.  [b]The most important thing is communication.[/b]  And you won't have good communication with your child if you have such a simplistic sense of whats out there and how to deal with it.

Stats don't lie, most kids experiment.  And most come out of that experience just fine.  I am NOT condoning it, but I think you need to accept that fact and then decide how you are going to deal with it.  [b]And you have to understand that ultimately you are not in control.[/b][/quote]Agree.  I am both the daughter of a recovering alcoholic and now the mother of a recovering alcoholic.  While the kid was growing up, I made it clear that people in our family are predisposed to addiction and that she had to be careful about her consumption of drugs and alcohol and that our family had turned to 12-step programs for help.  When she went off to college, she realized that she was an alcoholic before we ever realized that she had a problem.  She went through a long struggle and took time off from school and now is very engaged in the recovery community.  Communicating with your kid is no guarantee that the kid won't have problems or that the kid will learn to address their problems in a healthy manner.  We were extremely lucky that dd took the steps she did.  But it's very important to talk to your kid and if you have a history of addiction in the family, discuss it with your kid.  It's for their own protection.[/quote]

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