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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are really obsessing over this guardian thing.  The chances of you and your dh both dying at the same time is pretty slim.  Does it happen?  Yes, of course.  Is it likely to happen, no.

Everyone has faults, everyone has baggage.  If this woman is the best person you have to fall back on if a tragedy should strike, then so be it.

If she is basically a good person who genuinely loves, knows and spends time w/your kids that is the important thing.  Of course, if she opts to detonate a bomb in her own life by involving herself with a married man and conceiving his child...her relationship with your kids might change and you might need to make other arrangements for guardianship.   Good luck.

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You are in complete disagreement with 9:03 a couple of posts above.[/quote]

Mainly because we are talking in so many "if" terms - if this woman conceives a child, if this man doesn't leave his wife and marry this woman, if Op & her husband suddenly die at the same time.  There is a reason why the Op and her husband chose this particular Aunt to act as a guardian for their kids.  If the Op and her husband think things have changed and this lady is no longer a good candidate for guardianship - they can go on from there.  But to pass judgement on this woman and her choices is not very fair. This guy could leave his wife, could marry this lady and have a baby together.  That is possible too ya know.[/quote]

Just because it is possible doesn't mean it is likely (as you point out in your post about the likelihood of both parents dying at the same time).  That said, OP should really consider if she wants her dc's to be subject to the sh** show this aunt's life will become if she follows through on her plans.[/quote]

If this aunt suddenly becomes the legal parent of two little kids, I'll bet that man will SCRAM in a real hurry - problem solved.  Thankfully that isn't likely to happen!!!  Best wishes and good health to the Op.[/quote]

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