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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless this woman Is much older and senior to him, you should be invited. If she is truly a friend, it is appropriate to invite you. [/quote]

This is insane.  Men and women work together.  Co-workers sometimes become friends.  Sometimes friends want to talk outside the office (especially if it involves a planned work transition or issue at the company).  While it's only been 10% of posters, I still can't believe people gave a problem with this.  If it's too frequent, it's weird.  If it's not during happy hour time or goes for hours, it's weird.  If he lies about it, it's weird.  If not, being psycho and paranoid is bad choice for everyone involved.  And, god no, you should not invite yourself to a work conversation "unless the woman is much older and senior"--that's an insane request.

Every DH is not having or planning to have an affair.  And, yes, men and women can be friends (without the man wanting anything untoward).  Really.[/quote]

Here's what I think- a one time catch up conversation- fine. Personally though I think coffee is more appropriate . If it turns into something regular then it's a problem. . And to the pp I quoted here- no, men and women cant be 'really ' good friends ... Such as close bffs bc the man has no real reason to spend a lot of time and energy on a woman that he doesn't have some sexual interest in. It's just the plain truth.

I had a lot if close male friends in high school and college- but once we all got married it just got weird to be talking or spending a lot of time with them- spouses get uncomfortable- and I can completely understand that.

Circling back to the op- it's good he told you about it- so I think it's ok but I completely understand why you are uncomfortable.[/quote]

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