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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It breaks my heart to think of them being forcibly separated.  I have twins and belong to a twins forum, and the accepted consensus is to respect the twin bond until and unless there is demonstrated reason not to.  For all you know, they will excel being together in class.  Many of my friends have had to cite state laws in order to keep their twins together.  I hope you will let your girls stay in the same classroom.  They sounds wonderful and very healthy.[/quote]

I do not have twins and I am not a twin, so feel free to completely discount this. However, I have some background in child development, so as is the DCUM way, I will share a couple of thoughts.  :)

First, you can ask for separate classrooms and still respect the twin bond. Five year-olds don't necessarily know what is best for them; they know what is familiar and comfortable. Second, I see nothing wrong with them sharing a room and doing the other things you described (mostly). You can ask for separate classrooms and still let them share a room, etc. I do wonder about "Do you want oatmeal? We could want oatmeal instead." They need to become comfortable thinking of themselves as separate people, with separate wants, needs, interests, friends, etc. I don't think you need to directly address that, but be aware of it because of what other posters said (e.g., Larla does the math, I do the reading. Larla wants oatmeal so I need to want oatmeal.)

The twin bond you've described here sounds very precious. Different classrooms would give them "spaces in their togetherness," and they will still have most of their waking and sleeping hours to be together. I think it's great that you've actually thought about this. (On a side note, I know a mom who has two boys and she dresses them alike, homeschools them, has them wear identical long hair and glasses, has them both play the same musical instrument and take Suzuki lessons together, and generally seems to encourage a twin-like bond for some reason. They spend no time apart at ages 8 and 6. I think children do need some space to be themselves, pursue their own interests and be separate people, so good for you for gently encouraging that.)

Again, feel free to disregard any and all of my post. You sound like a lovely family with lovely children. You are very fortunate! ?[/quote]

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