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[quote=Anonymous]There's a great book published in the US about how the "McMansionisation" - even small scale - of the American family has led to a sense of dislocation, disassociation and disappointment on the part of kids.  Kids with access to computers and TVs which compensate for a lack engagement with their families who are busy providing but not listening.  Mom's successful, Dad works all hours. For what?  Own room.  Own bathroom. Own issues.  Good college, cosmetically-sound resume and everyone's happy.  Or are they?

When I was growing up we had to litigate access to the bathroom and argue about what to watch on TV.  Both my parents worked - including my dad who was a prominent surgeon on call a lot - but there was never a time when we didn't have family dinner when we were all at home and my parents lived in a modest house where we just jumbled around each other.

OP's post strikes me as articulating affront because a child uses "her" space.  Crossing the line.  Encroaching on her facility.  I find this incredibly sad.  She doesn't ask why the child wants to be in her space or whether it's normal for her to want her kids to stay the hell out of her territory because she assumes they have no right to use her stuff - like someone at the office who is trying to outrank her.  It's desperately dismal and such a horrid indictment on some American families.  Where did the love, humor, fun and engagement go?

Here's my advice to OP - keep a packet of cards in your pocket.  And next time your D(?)C annoys you, play a game.  On the stairs or at the kitchen table.  There's loads which don't involve screens.  And while you're playing and spending some time, ask about friends, tensions, why your bathroom is coveted.  It's mazing what you find out when you engage.

This is one of the most depressing posts I've ever read on DCUM

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