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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you relate the not being alone with your daughter to his actions? Have you had a conversation about the fact there are numerous reports he has fondled women? I am not sure that translates to him being a pedophile but you need to do what makes you comfortable. And he obviously has poor boundaries. I would make sure however you make the connection that the not being alone is because of how he has acted inappropriately and you can't risk that. [/quote]

Yes, after every sentence I said he changed the subject like we were talking about the weather.  He knows but never processes it.  His wife did talk with me saying that he is just overly friendly and people take him the wrong way.  He didn't offer even a lame excuse.[/quote]

Your bottom line was the right one but you probably could've handled it better.  But that is water under the bridge now... now you just need to make 100% sure your father is NEVER alone with your DD.  And that means she's not alone with him without you or your husband.  Don't trust his wife, she sounds like she's in denial as well and she won't protect your DD.

I haven't read all the other pages of responses, but in case anyone is trying to make you feel bad, ignore it.  Your father has left a trail of people bothered by his actions, and honestly, for that many people to actually complain, it's got to be egregious behavior.  Most people just try to get away and don't bring it up.  If source after source reports complaints, your dad has a problem and he's not doing anything to address it.  You are VERY LUCKY that he never mistreated you, and that is a strength of his that is not to be taken for granted.  But he apparently does not hold back with others, and just generally his denial is a characteristic I wouldn't want my kid around if I were in your shoes, even if he never showed a sign of wanting to do anything inappropriate with my kid.[/quote]

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