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[quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I would stop answering their calls. Keep your door locked. Do your own plan and go completely off the radar. Have your DH cover for you if they absolutely will not stop calling but do not have another conversation with them about this, and please try for the moment to forget that they exist. Take baths, listen to calming music, whatever the heck will relax you and just focus on getting to the end goal of a healthy mom and healthy baby.

Your Dad threw a tantrum and screamed at you because he didn't get his way? Eff that noise. Your job, your loyalty is to your immediate family. Protect yourself. Protect your baby. Protect your DH. If you are all on board with your plan, then there is no more need for discussion with outside parties. They do not get a say. If they insist on having a say, then you cut off forms of communication until your baby is in your arms and you are actually living through this change in your life and will have a better feel for what you can handle from such selfish relatives.

Put your feet up and enjoy Christmas. Send out baby announcement cards when you are ready for people to come and visit, and only allow them to stay in a hotel, far, far, away from you. Wait until you have enough strength and conviction to calmly enforce this (i.e. NOT when you are figuring out breastfeeding, or exhausted, or worrying about your C-section incision, or starving, or worrying about the disarray of your house, or beyond sleep deprived). These things are all normal. You WILL sort it out. You can do it! Get into a rhythm, and then deal with the crazies.

Wishing you a stress-free birth. Don't think about this. Just think about getting you and your baby to the finish line. You can do it![/quote]

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