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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for these great replies.

Yes, he has served. He definitely has a track record of being faithful (I know some of his friends) and he was raised strictly and I can definitely see him being strict with kids.

Love his patriotism and his brains and his masculinity. A little turned off by his inability to be sensitive, his sometimes boorish and un-PC jokes, and the fact that his cockiness seems like a mask for some kind of deep insecurity. I am not saying he's not confident about some aspects of himself - he is. But there is a depth of insecurity there too, that I just haven't seen before in previous boyfriends. And it makes no sense because he has everything going for him![/quote]

You have to decide whether you be able to tolerate the "unseemly" behavior in the long run.  Someone can be a really nice guy, but if certain behaviors of his get on your nerves, those are (likely) never going to go away.  He's insensitive?  Will you be able to handle that kind of insensitivity in other aspects of your life?  Un-PC or boorish?  Are you comfortable with explaining or apologizing for his behavior to other people?

I used to date a Navy Seal.  He was nice and good-looking, but there was always something about him that bothered me.  We broke up and he ended up marrying someone else, but their marriage fell apart -- he couldn't comprehend the difficulties she was facing being married to a Seal, and I know his relationship with their child became strained. I remember talking to him about it, and he seriously could not understand why his wife was unhappy (not that anything could be done about it, but he couldn't even sympathize).  He actually got angry with me because I was trying to point out how she might be feeling. They eventually divorced, he retired, remarried, blah blah blah.  While he seems happy with his new wife, I think he's really strange now.  It's hard to explain, but it's like those behaviors he had (anger, lack of compassion) were amplified as he got older.  He scares me.[/quote]

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