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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it possible that he knows something about you that makes him want to avoid contact?  For example, are you very poor and likely to ask for support for your new baby?  Or a gift for the new baby?  Or babysitting for the new baby?

Maybe your mother was a drain on him, maybe she was mentally ill?  Maybe you show similar emotional/mental qualities (even though you are physically different) as your mom?

Your posts are a bit incoherent, and lack the maturity expected in the mother of a new baby.  Maybe he can see this as well and is worried something that will drain what little life he has (he is after all 80) instead of giving him joy?  (I also find it very emotionally immature that you just can not understand that not everybody bonds with children)[/quote]

PP, you are truly evil. I initially typed "horrible," but "evil" is a better fit. Accurate.

What children who are abandoned by their parents pretty universally fear is that their parents left them because there was something inherently wrong with them. And what do you specifically ask in your post? - if the OPs father "knows something" about the OP that would make him want to avoid her. You just had to go right for the Achilles heel, didn't you?[/quote]

Maybe I am evil.  I have also refused to meet my brother's children, because I know he is an unending sink for money.  If he could, he would take all my money, make it evaporate into nothing (it is amazing to me how he makes money disappear with no apparent gain for himself or his large family), and come back for more.  Sometimes fear of intimacy is due to the knowledge that the person has needs that could cripple you but give that person no gain.    And, honestly, maybe her father is evil as well.  If I am evil, he may just be evil in the exact same way.  Not all fathers are good.  Maybe she should accept that her father is evil.[/quote]

Yes because you will need all that money in your after life[/quote]

WTH? Maybe she needs her OWN money now?! [/quote]

More than trying to live her blood? She's using money as an excuse. They probably don't want to see her anyway. My rich aunt is obnoxious so we avoid her. [/quote]

The problem is, when I do give them money, it just disappears.  If I saw any evidence at all that any of it went to help the children, I would give.  But it just vanishes into pay-per-view, church donations, pets that eventually die from poor treatment, gifts to friends, etc.  The only way I would be willing to give me money would be if I could, for example, pay a grocery store to deliver them food or pay an afterschool provider directly.  But of course they won't accept money like that, because they want to throw it awy.[/quote]

Don't give money at all.just love. You don't need to explain your decision to me - signed op[/quote]

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