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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh please, PP. I'm a FSO and different strokes for different folks. I know folks who LOVE to stay in Africa while others opt to stay primarily in EUR. Hardship posts are rough[b] if you're the type like me who love the city life, public transportation, Western convenience, etc.[/b] I'm in a hardship post now and while I love it, I had to work hard to make it work. I decided that I'm done with anymore posts requiring that my family take malaria pills or where kidnappings of Americans are common or weekend trips can be cancelled because of political unrest. Money isn't as important to everyone as it is to you. [b]Being unhappy for three years is a HUGE cost to pay. You don't get that time back. [/b]

Get off your high horse.[/quote]

"City life, public transportation, Western convenience, etc." describes about 20% of the planet.  Why on earth would you choose the Foreign Service when the life you like is not available in the majority of postings the FS offers?  And, I agree that being unhappy is a HUGE cost to pay, but the more important question is why did you choose a career that requires you to be so often in places that don't feed your personal needs? [/quote]

Because I can have what I want and value within the FS and still serve my country. I have hit the Stans already and I am at a hard to fill post now. So I am going for a quality of life post next. For me, that means South America or the Caribbean. Where we can visit family more often, and my kid can pick up another, more functional language. I love my career and what I do, but I will never be married to it. I have had colleagues with cancer go home for treatment and be mostly forgotten. People who have put social lives and a family life entirely on hold for the mission. That's how one can end up bitter. I am at a point where I could never be promoted again (though I definitely want to be!) and I would probably still be pretty happy.

Sorry to hijack your thread, OP. Clearly, I can relate to you! [/quote]

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