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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I think you suck it up--with caveats. First, until they tell you when they are coming, you plan your summer as you normally would, and you don't change things if they announce when they are coming without consulting you first. If you've booked the beach house, too bad. If you've signed your daughter up for a camp, too bad. If you've promised to work during the day, too bad.

Second, you do not have to entertain them while they are here. It's DC, for God's sake. Give them a guidebook and a Metro map and let them entertain themselves.

Third, your husband helps plan, prepare, and entertain. If he doesn't, then he can't complain about what you do.

In other words, be a gracious host, but don't be a doormat. Don't make trouble where it doesn't exist yet, but don't feel that you have to bend yourself into a pretzel or slave away for them. [/quote]

I totally agree. If they don't like to spend much time with you when you're visiting your MIL, why would they spend much time with you when they're in DC?  I get along well with my family but rarely get to spend time with them when they visit here.  I get them the bus schedules, let them know when I leave for/from work and offer to drop them off at the metro at those times.  I let them know what days I'll be making dinner and let them know what they can make for themselves from the fridge.  The expectation should be they accommodate your schedule, not you catering to theirs.[/quote]

This.  And, OP, please be gracious in front of your children.  Elevate this entire thing...from your posts you are playing into it by being a drama queen.  [/quote]

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