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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]My brother's wife is selfish and entitled. She was the first in her family to get married and have kids, and I think she has unrealistic expectations about how much others should help her. I've done a lot for them over the years, always helping her out, and it's hurt me tremendously that there's no acknowledgment and she still feels like I owe her something. I've reached out to her many times - but there's no reciprocity. My brother's kind of an ass as well.

Other SIL's I get along with. We're not BFFs or anything, but when we see each other we get along fine. They're a little older and less entitled.
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You sound like my SIL. Did it ever occur to you that she doesn't want/need your help or that you are overbearing and have no boundaries? Maybe that's why there is no reciprocity- because you just expect too much from others for your help they didn't ask for or want. [/quote]

Nope, you're not my SIL, unless you've totally forgotten about all the dozens (hundreds?) of requests for help. Somehow, I don't think I'm the odd one out for expecting a meager 2% reciprocity from family. That's kind of what normal, non-entitled people do for each other. That's kind of how most civilized relationships work (key word: relationship - ie, meaning a duality).

Anyway. My other SILs are kind and cool and we get along well. But my selfish brother and his selfish wife deserve each other. Although 4 years in and they've already had many marital problems, so maybe they'll realize their self-absorption can't really work even when you're solmate mirrors of each others entitlement? Oh well, not my problem!

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