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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually wish I was in your position rather than mine.  I work almost double the hours as my husband, but since he makes more money, I am responsible for all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands and keeping our bills paid.  I do the morning daycare drop-off.  The only things he does is the afternoon daycare pickup, mowing the lawn, and taking out the trash/recycling.

I'm uber beat.[/quote]

I am irate on your behalf!  A fair arrangement would be that you do house/child work in inverse proportion to paid work.  Under this arrangement, your husband should be responsible for 2/3s of the house/child work.  Let him use his big income to hire help if he doesn't want to do it himself!

PP, how did your situation evolve?  Has your husband explicitly said that he thinks he should do less because he makes more?[/quote]

Yes, he has actually said that.  He is a sexist.  He also gets really made if we get any mail that has my name listed before his (because "he's the MAN").  He has also told me that it's my duty to do the housework because "he has the penis, and I have the vagina".

He totally tricked me into marriage.  Before marriage, I talked to him about how I wanted it to be (a 50/50 partnership).  He agreed.  He was totally "women's rights!".  He was great with helping out, until I had our son.  Then, he actually came out and told me that he didn't have to "pretend anymore".  I'm trying to make it work since we have a son together, and I don't make very much to support myself on my own, but I pretty much hate him now.  [/quote]

Wow.  That's horrible.  I would spend his hard earned money on outsourcing as much as you can.  Maybe put the child in preschool and get a part time job so I'd have some of my own money.  You could use it for a divorce lawyer.[/quote]

You may have missed the part in my post where my son is in preschool, and I work full-time, I just don't make much, and most of my check goes towards bills.  I do, however, have a secret bank account that I'm putting as much savings in as I can.  [/quote]

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