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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]God bless you for taking care of these children!

Even though you do not want to adopt, I am guessing it must be very difficult to say goodbye to the children, particularly those with whom you really bond. How do you deal with that? Do you keep in touch? [/quote]

Well generally we are happy for them to go because it's (hopefullly) to a permanent place. To a relative who has stepped up, to a parent who has jumped through hoops to get their child back, etc. We want the kids to have a stable life. But it's still a big adjustment when a child leaves, and we all mope around for a day or two, sometimes longer. We don't really keep in touch because that doesn't encourage them to bond with whatever family they've moved on to. [/quote]

Kids who have been in foster care always talk about being moved around a lot, sometimes seemingly for no reason. Do the social workers tell you where the kids are going? Have you ever had one moved for reason other than family unification or your request and do you know what that reason was?[/quote]

Generally we are told "Larla's aunt has agreed to take her so we'll pick her up after school tomorrow." We aren't given the exact address or anything. Sometimes they're moved because a bed opens in a home where their sibling is, or in a home better equipped to help with their specific problem. [/quote]

In cases other than when a family member becomes available, and especially when the child has been with you for a while, are the child's desires and your opinions taken into account? For example, there may be a home that is supposed to be better equipped to handle her problem, but she has been thriving with you, thriving at her school, do you get to say you think she should stay, does the child get to say she would rather stay?[/quote]

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