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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift. [/quote]

Are you Jewish? I find the they give larger cash gifts than most ethnicities.

I am a wasp and I think it is fine for you to [b]spend around forty dollars. If you were older and had a six figure job, i would say around 100 for a close cousin or sixty for a not close cousin[/b]. Different cultures or families might expect more.

You absolutely do not need to pay for your plate. [/quote]

[b]Wow, that is an insulting gift. Even when I was making $30k and in my early 20's I gave $200[/b]. [/quote]

Okay troll.  Nice try.[/quote]

Not a troll. A wedding is a (hopefully) once-in-a-lifetime event. I'm not going to give a fucking DVD of a movie with a dish from Ross to the bride and groom. That's something you give for a birthday or Christmas/Hanukah. I truly am shocked at all these people encouraging OP to give $40 or $50. That's what I spend on a friend's birthday present!! And I'm not wealthy or making six figures. I just try to give quality rather than crap. [/quote]

Greetings from the previous poster whose friend gave her the "fucking DVD of a movie with a dish from Ross." What a delightful friend you must be! The kid who gave us that was in her first job, and going to grad school like crazy nights and weekends and had nothing but a sense of humor and a heart. She THOUGHT about her gift and what we were like and she was creative. How creative is it to dump cash on someone or to pick off a registry?

Our "once in a lifetime event" did not coincide with HER having a ton of cash, or even a little extra cash. Should we have dumped her as a friend in advance of the wedding so she wouldn't be embarrassed by her "fucking" gift and so we wouldn't be oh so offended by her poverty?

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