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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my mother has never really liked my DH, we've been together for almost 20 years and she still acts like such a jerk to him. It came to a real head right before the birth of my 2nd child. My mother reneged on her offer to help after the birth, and was upset my MIL took 3 weeks vacation to come across the country to help us (she offered, I needed it, so I said yes, what am I, stupid?!). She didnt like the name either, was really pushing for a family name in particular, but I didn't want it, and we chose another family name.  She accused me of doing it just to spite her.  she drove up here the day after I had an emergency csection to yell at me in person, I still had my catheter in.  When DC was baptized 3 months later she lied about not being in town. It was incredibly hurtful, I couldn't understand why she was doing this.

It has been 4 years and things are starting to get better. We had a head to head last year where I just said look, I love my DH, he's a good man, husband and father, he isn't going anywhere.  He is my priority and if you want to spend time with me or my children you cannot say anything degrading or rude to or about him, period.  It is your choice."

It seems to have worked to some degree.  I do try to keep them separated because if I put myself in DHs shoes I wouldn't want to be around her either.  But I try to reconcile with her at least for the sake of my children having a nice relationship with their grandparents.  it is amazing at how nice and accepting my MIL is of me, it is like night and day.

I tell you this because this too may pass.  Life is too short, once the baby arrives hopefully all of you can find some sort of peace.  [/quote]

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