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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It makes me so angry that these discussions (the article and here) completely overlook the root of the problem, which is that society doesn't value childrearing and caring for the home, and there aren't enough flexible and part-time jobs available in the professional world.

Just because a woman stays home does not mean she is no longer her husband's "intellectual equal."  Working at a computer from 9-5 somehow makes you intellectual, but cleaning, teaching, shopping, playing, and cooking from 9-5 makes you an idiot?  That's ridiculous.  SAHMs (and dads!) are not just sitting around.  They're doing an unbelievable amount of very important work.  This is literally the job of raising the next generation!  (Also, would you consider someone who works as a nanny or preschool teacher to be somehow unintellectual and worthless, or does the fact that they make money for this work somehow change the value of their activities??)

We need to work to teach each other the value of the work done at home.  This needs to come into the media, classrooms, and our everyday conversations.

And the workforce needs to change so that parents -- men and women -- can have sustainable careers and good family lives.  As the article points out, a "good" job is one that requires travel, 50+ hours a week, etc.  So, the only options a woman has then are to (1) work all the time and spend very little time/energy with her kids, (2) work in a mediocre, "second-rate" job for which she isn't valued any more than she would if staying at home, or (3) stay at home and be devalued by society.  The professional workforce needs to offer more part-time positions, more flexibility for consulting roles, and an understanding that employees who feel supported in their family life will also be good workers.

The conversation is, frankly, really selfish.  [b]Where is the discussion about our kids?[/b]  Is it really best for our kids to be raised in daycare from the time they're a couple weeks old, rarely seeing either parent?  And we can't protect ourselves against every awful future possibility, so the idea of having to "protect yourself" from the possibility of future divorce by working today despite the fact that you have an excellent relationship is ridiculous.

I can't believe that all the other PPs are so anti-SAHM.[/quote]

Wholeheartedly agree.[/quote]
 
+1  I don't think the article even mentions the kids--the whole reason for opting out...
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