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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=AroundTheBlock]Also, I find it interesting that your mom is telling you to have your own account "in case something happens".  This means:

1. You mother does not have a healthy relationship with your father or men in general.

2. Has been cheated in terms of trust or money before.

3. She does not like or trust your husband.

Heck, my wife's parents freaking LOVE me.  They would give money gifts to me directly instead of their daughter because they know I'm financially smart and responsible. [/quote]

Not necessarily. My parents have been married over 50 years.  They are in their mid-70's.  My mother has always been a homemaker. My dad has never given her a reason to not trust him financially or otherwise. Yet she still has her own bank account with "her" money from gifts and other things. In some ways, I think it makes my mom feel like she has some power over herself.
 
A lot of this thought is generational. Back in the day in many, if not most, families the husband worked and the wife stayed home with the kids. Then in some families, the husband found someone new and sometimes left the wife high and dry to fend for herself with no job skills, no experience, etc.  And many women heard stories where this happened to someone they knew or a friend of a friend and were, therefore, advised to keep some money in their own names "just in case."

I am 99.99% sure my mother is not worried about my dad leaving her for another woman.  Yet she still clings to her own account.  I remember my mom (and my dad) advising me when I was a young married to have an account in MY NAME ONLY, not because they don't trust my husband or dislike him or because they have been cheated on. [b]They advised me of that because you really never know what is going to happen in the future.[/b]

When I got married I kept my account I had and that has stayed "my" account in my name only, even though I had a job and skills to handle myself if I ended up alone one day.  I have never closed that account. My husband knows about it and doesn't care.[/quote]

So, this means everyone should sign a prenuptial agreement. [/quote]

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