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[quote=Anonymous]My husband did this sort of thing several times for his sister and she still to this day spends ever penny she makes, every penny she inherited and she feels very entitled to financial help now. Never saw a dime back. Every time there was a sob story and a promise this would never happen again.

Here's my advice...if you plan to give, do not expect a penny back. If she does repay you be grateful, but do not have that expectation because it can just cause resentment. Find out the exact amount she is asking for and decide if you think it is reasonable and if you can afford it. Legal fees can be more then tens of thousands. Make sure your husband is on board. I would not do this without making him a part of the discussion.

As someone mentioned the best idea is to find a way to help her help herself. Look into free options or pro-rated options for legal assistance. She may be too overwhelmed to research this. If she indeed goes this route and does not need financial help for legal fees, I would find ways to keep helping her emotionally, as I'm sure you already do. If you can offer to babysit the kids now and then, do so, but you probably already do. Give her a gift card to a grocery store or for a favorite shop. Offer to make dinner one night. [/quote]

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