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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would take one for the other coworker and lie. I'd say to Pregnant Woman, "Actually, I don't want to broadcast this, but recently suffered a miscarriage, and while I'm ecstatic for you, would REALLY appreciate if you didn't constantly bring up your pregnancy in EVERY conversation. It really makes my heart sink. Ordinarily I wouldn't have said anything, but it's entirely possible other people are going through reproductive struggles also, and may feel the same way but not want to tell you."

Or I'd leave an anon printed doc on her chair while she's peeing now that she's pregnant, that says it.[/quote]

This is a good idea. Thanks![/quote]

Oh no, OP. Please don't take this advice. It is well intentioned but dishonest if you never had a miscarriage. Certainly not something you want to lie about when there are so many more honest ways to handle to situation. 
And I speak as someone who has been in all three situations---miscarriages, infertility, pregnancy. 
Please do consider some of the other suggestions made on this board such as telling your friend that the other friend is troubled by all of the pregnancy talk, the redirection, or the suggestion of including your friend in a solution in helping the other friend feel better. [/quote]

I'ts also passive aggressive, cowardly, and shitty. I'm not in favor of you telling this person to talk about her pregnancy less, but leaving an anonymous note is a much worse idea. If you're going to end the friendship, do it in person. Leaving a note will end the friendship. She'll figure out who it was, and if she doesn't, then she will be very upset wondering who would be so mean and rude and nasty to leave such a note. What's wrong with you, OP?

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I am not going to leave a note. I am going to tell her in person that I had a m/c (which I true) and am a little sensitive to all the baby talk. [/quote]

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