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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, I am stationed overseas on a 3-year assignment.  Last summer, [b]during one of the rain storms, derecho or whatver i[/b]t was that happened our basement flooded due to power failure.  Our sump pumps stopped working and the basement flooded.  Luckily our insurance paid to repair the finished basement.

However, [b]DW is now complaining[/b] with the summer storm season coming on that this being the Washington area where power failures seem to be de rigeur for even the smallest thunderstorm, that our basement will inevitably flood when the power goes out yet again. She wants to install a backup system.  I agree, but the question comes down to how to pay for it.  I know for a fact that [b]she took at least $5K from the insurance payout and squirreled it away in her own account.[/b]  When I raise with her that this money can be used to pay for the backup system,[b] she cried this is her "compensation." [/b] So, at this point I am basically saying that I agree we need a backup system, but that the responsibility for paying for it needs to come out of that remainder of insurance money because "that is what it is for."  If the basement floods again, she will need to accept responsibility.

Frankly, I do not understand her thinking that this insurance money is her "compensation."  However, she either needs to decide whether she wants to keep that money - which is not hers to begin with - or whether she wants to prevent the basement from flooding again. I do not understand her stubborness, but[b] she needs to put on her big girl pants and start acting like an adult and not expect me to cave in and give her what she wants.  [/b][/quote]

All of this sounds to me like OP has an awful attitude towards his DW.  Whatever bad things I might do, I doubt my DH would ever speak of me in these terms.

You guys have some work to do, and as others have said, it's not in the basement.[/quote]

OP here.  Where is use bad attitude? She is complaining about not having her backup system and know very well that she has the money.  She is not entitled to "compensation" from the insurance payout. Believe me - she gets more than enough from what I earn. Since I have just laid out for summer camp for the kids, recent car repairs, orthodontics, her credit card and her medical bill not covered by insurance, I think she needs to step up to the plate and pony up $2K.  Otherwise, she is saying that the backup system is not so important to me that I'm willing to part with the money.

And yes, I do expect a 39 year old woman to behave like  a grown up and take some responsibility.  [b]My mother dealt with three kids and a husband in a combat zone and never ever would've behaved this way.[/b] [/quote]

DING DING DING!!!!! There's your issue! She's not your mommy. She never will be. She's her own person. [/quote]

Who clearly isn't as adult as his mother was, from what I can tell.  You know, stealing household money and all.[/quote]

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