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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not about protecting my DD from a man I don't trust. It's about teaching her that no man should see her naked or feel the need to clean and dress her. Sorry I haven't kept abreast with responses. But yes I handle all baths and have more availability to. I don't know about you, but a 4/5 year old is very capable of taking a bath alone. Hair washing is the only issue, and yes I can handle that. My DH has no problem with this arrangement and does not find it strange at all. He grew up with 2 sisters and in his home dad was not involved in "girl issues" nor was the son expected to be. SO it is not alarming to him. It's the reality of our life and I am sorry that many of you don't understand it, and I am sure most of haven't been sexually abused either. I trust my husband, otherwise he wouldn't be my husband. And I told him about the events of molestation since we were dating. If you knew of the trauma someone has been through and couldn't adjust accordingly to ensure they are comfortable there is something more wrong with you than them. Spouses who truly care would want to accommodate the other. And sorry it is not my husband's burning desire to bathe and dress my DD that this is uncompromisable. That is laughable.

I want to teach boundaries to my DD and future children, I believe nudity is a big one. I don't believe there is anything wrong with telling a female child that no man should see her naked or have to touch her when she is capable of doing it herself. Sorry if you have a problem with that.[/quote]

I don't think that PP is crazy. She is sharing her experiences and makes a good point about listening to your gut and giving children the power to say no. She also has a husband that is understanding of her past experiences that have shaped how she would like to raise her children. If they both of them are on the same page, then what is crazy about it?

OP - I would listen to your gut and make sure that your child feels free to discuss anything about anything with you. My kids are still really young (oldest is 4), so eight minutes doesn't seem like a long time to get dressed. I think leggings would be too foriegn of an object for their dad to even attempt to put on our daughter. (He's a great dad in other aspects, but grew up in a house of boys and finds all things girl-related to be a mystery never to be solved.) I would get with your ex and discuss how you would like to empower your child with the ability to say no and what the both of you can to do be on the same page about it. I wouldn't even bring up him getting her dressed. That would come naturally from the plan you both agree to. [/quote]

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