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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are many good reasons not to smoke pot: the illegality, supporting Mexican drug cartels that have basically destroyed Mexico, the fact that drug dealers use elementary school kids as runners, the addiction potential, the fact that people who smoke pot get behind the wheels of cars, the recent study on IQ effects of pot use, the link between pot use and mental illness etc. The thing that I think would be most resonant for the Type A parents of DC, though, is the fact that pot often saps people's ambition. Sure, there are productive people who use it, but on average, pot users are couch surfers. The stoners at my high school tended to work at the pizza parlor. When I was in my second year of a PhD program, I went to that pizza parlor, and there they still were. [b]Honest work, sure but it won't pay a Fairfax County mortgage[/b].[/quote] ^ all true, but you're going to tell a stoner teenager that? Don't smoke pot then youy can pay your Fairfax mortgage someday? I'm not even a stoner and that sounds ridiculous to me.[/quote] No, certainly that won't resonate for the average kid. I'm offering this argument because I find the complacency of the parents to be puzzling. [/quote] Looking through old pot threads on here because we've given up and at a loss. The grades thing doesn't work either because DC's grades and test scores haven't slipped and are pretty top notch. How am I going to use even the FFX mortgage argument when DC will get into a much better school/college than either place I or DH went to? [/quote] You might consider an entirely new strategy. I say this as a parent who hates the idea of my teen smoking pot and who would never give permission. I don't think you give permission but you do set ground rules, knowing that ultimately you can't stop this. Ground rules have to do with safety -- no driving while high or getting into the car of someone who is high, no getting high in a place like school grounds or public property where he could get in trouble with the law, no getting high at home, and no letting grades slip. In other words, he's going to have to exercise his own judgment and if that means getting high in his friend's basement during a sleepover, you aren't going to stop him. But you do expect him to be responsible in every other way and if he isn't, you will ground him, and then do it. I am suggesting this because its become a power struggle and you can't win and because if he does follow all these rules, he will probably be fine.[/quote] PP here. Thanks for the response. She is a great kid who has always been pretty well behaved except for the pot thing. It started in 10th grade intermittently but it wasn't too bad. But this past year, it has been terrible as in use atleast every other day before or after dinner, brazenly smoking while doing calculus home work, studying or writing a paper. I worry if she gets in early decision next year to wherever she wants to go to school she'll just get high every waking moment and be a 'high functioning stoner' for the rest of the year. She has zero interest in getting her license so driving/high thing isn't an issue and DH doesnt agree with me in the 'no pot in the house rule' as he feels if she is going to smoke, let her do it in the house rather than outside the house. I actually don't think she gets high that much outside of the house to be honest, but at home it is out of control. [/quote]
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