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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You people, I cannot believe this thread. I know many of you have never dealt with child abuse, but to say "your crazy he is not molesting her" is just ignorant. I am not saying we should say "OP he is molesting her!" either. But to shut down a possibility based on your experiences or thoughts is very naive. I was molested when I was 4 by at my home daycare. I was sick and puked on myself, and a center worker found it a convenient opportunity to touch me while he changed me. My older sister luckily was aware of the situation enough to ask my mom about it, while I did not know what had happened. Fast forward I was molested by a cousin when I was 11 yo. I did not tell me parents about it until I was 17. During that time I never wanted to go to my aunt's house, I didn't want to visit, my parents did not listen to me ever! Thought I was just being a moody preteen etc. The only reason I ended up telling them was my dad and I were arguing and he said I was a bad daughter.. I retorted he was a horrible father and just blurted it all out.

Six years I felt like I couldn't say anything, 6 years I was put in uncomfortable situations and sleepovers and vacations. No one knew. Not a single sole. I said things like I just don't like him, he's mean etc. No one cared to ask why I felt the way I felt. It was my problem. I wasn't friendly.

OP please take it from me, let your daughter have a voice, let her know she has power over her body Let your DH know this is a serious issue. Be stern, follow your gut. I wished someone, (my parents, or anyone) would have paid attention at all the hints I dropped but was too afraid to say outwardly. And some of you should reflect too, and be sure the same things do not happen to your children. I am a parent now, I don't give two shits who thinks I am overprotective or paranoid, sexual abuse happens more times than we would like to believe, and I refuse to let my D or DD suffer through what I did.[/quote]

Oh for God's sake.  The daughter does have a voice, and she seems perfectly fine using it.  Her parents are divorced, so guess what?  Mom does not get to impose her view, or make parenting suggestions, trying to control behaviour that she has absolutely no reason to believe is at all inappropriate.  This is NOT, as you say, a "serious issue" that the dad needs to be scolded about.  It's a dad getting a daughter dresses, and a girl who seems to dawdle when dressing herself.  [/quote]

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