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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's true OP that you and your DC are what your MIL talks to her friends about, there's no way around it.

My MOM apparently had told her friends about my fertility issues.  When I finally, after a long time trying and a lot of painful years, brought my bouncing healthy baby boy down to see her, I was so excited.  We went to meet her Tuesday morning coffee group and I get hit with "I'm so glad you finally had this baby.  Your mother has been waiting so long after all of those miscarriages you had."

You could've knocked me over.  This past holiday when I was with my mom, and we got into a fight about her not being supportive, I finally brought it up.  But that hurt me so much to have my losses mentioned to me in such a casual way by a total stranger.

I now, of course, don't tell my mom very much at all.  And we told her that FB gave her computer a virus so she deleted her account.  :D[/quote]

That was an insensitive comment by your mother's friend, but if this is an isolated incident of boundary crossing, I wouldn't be too hard on your mom.  One thing I've come to appreciate since having my children is how much my mother worries about me, even as an adult.  So much of her seeming criticism of me or my choices or butting into my business is really just her stressing about me being happy.  I would expect that watching her daughter go through so much pain must have broken her heart.  It wasn't appropriate to breach your privacy, but I can see her need to unburden her sadness on her friends.[/quote]

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