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[quote=Anonymous][quote=jindc]I have a hard time believing when these people see a woman yell at her child on the metro to "shut the F up" that they give that woman their opinions.  Same with people who text and drive with kids in the back seat. or completely igore their children while they have their faces deep in their iPhones.  or anything else that's truly bad for a child's health and wellbeing.  I'm just sure they do the same thing.  Because I see it happen all the time and I'm still waiting for one of these "IT'S CHILD ABUSE!!!" people to stand up and say something.

It's the security of being anonymous on here that lets women so easily criticize other people's parenting regardless of the issue.  It's pretty sad - feel passionately, fine.  But get off your high horses and worry about things that really matter like poor water quality around the world, maternal death, etc.  Sheesh.[/quote]

You're exactly right it is anonymity that allows us to speak frankly, though some of us who disagree with you are not in any way trying to be inflammatory; we are just responding to the OP who said she's struggling with the decision.

As far as what you say about other types of child abuse. I mean, someone with their nose in their phone? Well, I probably don't know enough about their situation to determine whether or not this is a one-off thing or if they do it a lot. I don't see it as the same as, for example, striking your child with a fist. As for me, I don't like confrontation, I'm not really that bold, but I really do say something when I see a child being seriously mistreated even though I'm usually scared to. My mom used to slap me around all the time. I remember once a woman said "I'm saying this with as much kindness as I can muster. It is not right for you to strike your child in anger like that. You are wrong to hit her." Of course I got it even worse when I got home for "making that happen" but that statement of support from a stranger, just hearing another adult agree that it was WRONG stuck with me. So, speaking as that former kid, I encourage you to step outside your comfort zone and speak up the next time you see everyone else ignoring it.

And with circumcision, that's all any of us are trying to do here. Although I get that it is not something everyone will agree on, I can not help to think it is wrong to make that decision to do a painful procedure on your child without any good reason other than religion.

One more thing, I really reject the notion that we can only care about one thing at a time, or that we should all agree with your assessment that maternal death or water quality is a legitimate worry but it is not okay to worry about other things. By the way I like you and follow some of your posts and you have to understand that you need a thicker skin about parenting. One thing I agree with you on 100 percent? People WILL judge whatever you do so if you feel that strongly about this you just need to let my judgment and that of everyone else roll off your back. You also have to understand people have strong opinions on this. [/quote]

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